In Defence of My Marriage (and My Bodywork)

Lessons Learned

In Defence of My Marriage (and My Bodywork)

April 2026  ·  5 min read  ·  Every campsite we’ve ever visited

There is no faster way to end a perfectly pleasant holiday afternoon than asking your spouse to help you reverse a caravan into a tight spot. I say this not as a complaint about my wife specifically — she is a wonderful woman in almost every other context — but as a universal truth that I suspect resonates with caravanners across the country.

Our system, if you can call it that, goes roughly as follows. I get in the car, begin reversing, and my wife stations herself somewhere behind the caravan. She then communicates critical distance and direction information through a combination of shouting and arm movements. I receive approximately none of this information, because she is either standing in my blind spot, on the opposite side from my mirror, or audible only as a faint sound of urgency that I cannot interpret as words.

What I can reliably determine from my position in the driver’s seat is: there is a person back there, they appear to have an opinion, and something may or may not be about to happen.

A representative exchange, reconstructed

She said “Come back, come back — okay STOP, stop, stop, you’ve got about six feet!”
I heard [something] back — [something] STOP — [something] six feet
Reality There were approximately three feet. The post was right there.

This is the other variable I should mention. My wife, who is talented in many ways, has a somewhat creative relationship with distance estimation. When she says six feet, she means “I think there’s space, but I wouldn’t bet on it.” When she says three feet, she means “stop immediately.” The trouble is, from inside the car, these two statements sound identical — and by the time I’ve worked this out, the van has already introduced itself to whatever is behind it.


I want to be clear that none of these incidents were dramatic. No fences demolished, no other caravans sideswiped, nobody injured. It was always something more in the category of a minor meeting between a moulding and a bollard. A small conversation between a corner trim and a concrete car stop. A brief encounter between a panel and a post that I absolutely should have seen coming.

The cumulative effect, however, is notable. I have done a quiet inspection of our caravan that I would not recommend to anyone who is fond of their sense of pride as a vehicle owner. Several of the exterior mouldings are currently held together with what I will diplomatically call temporary fastening solutions. The rear corner trim has lived an eventful life. There is a ding on the offside panel that I have explained, on different occasions, as the result of a campground gate, a wayward shopping trolley, and — when pressed — “one of those things that just happens.”

It did not just happen. I backed into something. I’m fairly confident my wife was telling me not to at the time, but I couldn’t hear her because she was on the other side of the van.

“Several of the exterior mouldings are held together with what I will diplomatically call temporary fastening solutions.”


The thing about reversing a caravan is that the geometry is already working against you. You’re steering from the front of a vehicle that’s controlling the back of a longer vehicle, and your visibility to the rear is largely theoretical. Even with decent side mirrors, there are significant blind spots, and the exact point at which something behind you becomes a problem is exactly the point you cannot see. Adding a second person into this arrangement improves the situation only if that person can be seen and heard clearly — two conditions that are surprisingly hard to meet in a busy campground with a caravan blocking the line of sight.

The fundamental problems with the traditional method

  • Your spotter is often standing directly in your blind spot
  • Shouted instructions get lost in wind, traffic, and campsite noise
  • Side mirrors show you the sides of the van, not what’s directly behind it
  • Human distance estimation is optimistic at best, especially under pressure
  • By the time you react to an arm signal, you’ve already moved another foot

A wireless reversing camera solves all of this in one go. It shows you exactly what’s behind the van — not an approximation, not a shouted guess from someone you can’t quite see — but an actual live image of the actual obstacle that is actually about to make contact with your actual bodywork. The distance guidelines on the screen don’t have an optimistic bias. They don’t underestimate by three feet. They show you what’s there.

It also, and I cannot stress this enough, means that my wife can stay in the car. This has dramatically improved the reversing experience for both of us. She no longer has to stand in a car park waving her arms at a vehicle that clearly cannot see her. I no longer have to try to lip-read hand signals in a side mirror while simultaneously steering and second-guessing everything I think I heard. We reverse, we park, we get on with the holiday. It’s remarkable.

The mouldings, I’m sorry to report, cannot be saved retroactively by technology. They are what they are, and they tell the story of a caravanning education conducted the hard way. But the caravan’s new scratches-to-duct-tape ratio is, I’m pleased to say, holding steady.

“It means my wife can stay in the car. This has improved the reversing experience for both of us in ways that are difficult to overstate.”

If you are reading this and nodding — if you have your own version of the Six Feet That Were Actually Three Feet story, or your own moulding held together by optimism and adhesive — a wireless reversing camera is genuinely one of the better investments we’ve made in the van. It’s not glamorous. It doesn’t make you a better driver. But it gives you the information you need, from the angle you need it, at the exact moment it matters. Which is really all any of us were asking for from the start.

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